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Waiting can be boring, which is why we typically do anything we can to avoid it. We fill moments where we have to wait with something to keep our minds busy—such as scrolling on social media, reading the news or listening to a podcast.

But waiting isn't always bad. Research shows that it can be beneficial as it improves self-control—an ability important for many .

refers to a person's ability to regulate their thoughts, emotions and behavior when long-term goals conflict with short-term temptations.

Self-control has broad importance—whether that's or —because of its implications for learning, decision-making, performance, social relationships and well-being. The skill is key in resisting temptation in these settings.

Our ability to wait is a key way self-control is put to the test.

This might include pausing for a moment before writing a response to an email that has annoyed us. Or maybe it's resisting the temptation of an unhealthy food when you're trying to eat healthier. Both of these are examples of exerting self-control and creating space between impulse and action.

Research shows that even or pauses—such as ordering food ahead of time or waiting before making a purchase—can cool-off impulses and help us prioritize long-term goals.

Despite the attention given to self-control in different fields of psychological research, waiting as a standalone construct has not received as much attention. Still, what research there is on the topic shows us that waiting can have similar benefits.

For instance, research has looked at what effect silence has in coaching conversations—with silence acting as a . When the person who has been asked a question pauses before answering, it gives them the space to process their thoughts. This can help them better understand how they're feeling, uncover memories or even shed a light on things that are confusing them. In this way, silence serves a in communication—be it a pause for better listening, a defense or a chance for reflection.

Moments of waiting can create space for reflection. Having the opportunity to reflect on our actions, emotions and experiences can .

There are and in terms of how we perceive time in waiting. Waiting can also be uncomfortable or frustrating for those brains that crave stimulation. And, in some cultures, it can be framed as passive or inefficient—while in others, waiting is deemed powerful and transformative.

These differences mean that waiting can be perceived and practiced differently—and so benefits will appear in different forms.

The value of waiting

To reap the benefits that can come from learning self-control, resisting urges and appreciating the moments when we're waiting, we need to recognize the value of waiting.

Here are some evidence-based tips from positive psychology for practicing it more intentionally for our own well-being:

1. Savoring

Have you ever bought a ticket for an event and ended up enjoying the anticipation more than the event itself? Or felt the excitement of counting down to a summer holiday with friends?

When we anticipate something exciting, part of the joy lies in the wait itself. Research shows that savoring what we look forward to helps us .

Every time we think about it, we get small bursts of joy. Visualizing the concert, the trip or any event that you long for makes waiting less of an obstacle and more of an extension of the experience.

2. Gratitude

There are many moments in life where we have no option but to wait—for instance, while waiting to hear from your doctor about test results. But these moments can also give us an opportunity to .

Pausing to reflect on what you're grateful for can make waiting less about the frustration or worry you're feeling and more about appreciation.

3. Meaning making

Instead of seeing waiting as an inconvenience, try re-framing the way you think about it.

The next time you're stuck in traffic or standing in a long line, instead of seeing it as an inconvenience, re-frame it and see the moment as a chance to rest, pause or reflect. Re-framing how you think about the situation can change the experience.

When we connect waiting to a , waiting gains direction and meaning.

4. Mindfulness

Irritable waiting moments can be cues to practice mindfulness. Mindfulness involves paying full attention to the present moment, and looking at it with curiosity and acceptance.

Intentionally noticing what's going on in you and around you can turn an annoying circumstance into a mini check-in and chance to re-charge. This small practice may even help to by helping you to relax and regulate emotions.

This all isn't to suggest you should find more opportunities to sit around and wait. Rather, it's about seeing value in the moments where we do have to wait—and about intentionally making these moments more manageable and fun.

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